Not so officially “officially” accredited. I spoke too soon in my last post. I have a tendency to latch on in a serious way to any sort of positive adoption related news. Two months ago I thought we were truly on the cusp. The possibility of a referral coming through at any moment was on my mind. I find it hard to really understand what the holdup is at various stages in this process. Sometimes I believe this is because things get lost in translation, other times I think there is a reluctance on the part of our agency to share the details of exactly what is happening, or at times perhaps they just don’t know and are in suspense and waiting along with us. Whatever the case, it can create long spans of silence which are difficult to take.
When I first heard about the documentary Stuck which highlights the international adoption story of three different families I immediately marked the date of the showing on my calendar. I was certain that I needed to see this movie in order to help in my understanding of what people really go through in this whole process. I needed to hear the stories. I wanted the details. The premiere in my area has come and gone and as it turns out I could not bring myself to go see it. I am living it. I wonder if my future child is stuck in all the bureaucracy as I sit here in my comfy living room and write my story. It is difficult to comprehend. Here we are as the months continue to tick by.
The latest update on our agency’s website where at one time the referral wait time of 2-4 months was posted states the following: “Accreditation of the orphanage we partner with is nearly complete. They have many children in need of families. We hope to begin matching families and accepting new applications shortly. Please check back regularly for updates.” I wonder how long this message has been up, but more importantly, when will it change? When will we be beyond “nearly complete”? Soon, I hope.
In the meantime, I will work on mustering up the courage to watch the movie Stuck… at some point. Any other waiting families out there that have seen it? Should I watch it or will it just tear me up?
